You are going through a devastating break up and all you want to do is stop missing your ex and move on. It sounds so easy and you've probably heard your friends also tell you, "stop thinking about your ex and move on". But truly, the only person who knows how near impossible this sounds is you.
When you have just broken up you feel as if your life just ended; You feel like you can't function without your ex; You know that your life will never be the same as it was before, since you are not with your ex anymore.
I know these feelings all too well. I've had so many "eventful" break ups that I even started a journal to write about it.
Missing your ex the days following the break up is quite normal. Irrespective of what you might think right now, there is life after the end of a relationship. It won't come naturally though. You have to make an effort and take action. Here are a few things that helped me, stop missing my ex.
Get closure
If you are the one that got dumped you will want closure. It's good when you know the reason for the break up. Otherwise, you are left wondering why! Having closure means that you accept that the relationship is over and you can take the first steps towards moving on. If you keep thinking that you have a chance to get back with your ex or have plans to get back together with your ex it's unlikely that you will be able to stop missing your ex.
Get rid of stuff that reminds you of your ex
Obviously, you need to skim through the things that your ex gave you or the things that you have shared with your ex. Having them around will constantly remind you of your ex and won't help at all.
Avoid contacting your ex
Cut all contact with your ex. Don't try to come up with silly excuses to meet your ex or call them! You should also avoid snooping around your ex's social media profiles. It can be overwhelming to find out whether your ex is dating someone else or what they are up to. I know this can be a really difficult thing for you to do, every time you meeting or speak to your ex it's going to be even more difficult for you to move on.
When you have just broken up you feel as if your life just ended; You feel like you can't function without your ex; You know that your life will never be the same as it was before, since you are not with your ex anymore.
I know these feelings all too well. I've had so many "eventful" break ups that I even started a journal to write about it.
Missing your ex the days following the break up is quite normal. Irrespective of what you might think right now, there is life after the end of a relationship. It won't come naturally though. You have to make an effort and take action. Here are a few things that helped me, stop missing my ex.
Get closure
If you are the one that got dumped you will want closure. It's good when you know the reason for the break up. Otherwise, you are left wondering why! Having closure means that you accept that the relationship is over and you can take the first steps towards moving on. If you keep thinking that you have a chance to get back with your ex or have plans to get back together with your ex it's unlikely that you will be able to stop missing your ex.
Get rid of stuff that reminds you of your ex
Obviously, you need to skim through the things that your ex gave you or the things that you have shared with your ex. Having them around will constantly remind you of your ex and won't help at all.
Avoid contacting your ex
Cut all contact with your ex. Don't try to come up with silly excuses to meet your ex or call them! You should also avoid snooping around your ex's social media profiles. It can be overwhelming to find out whether your ex is dating someone else or what they are up to. I know this can be a really difficult thing for you to do, every time you meeting or speak to your ex it's going to be even more difficult for you to move on.
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